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Mandy Dilasi's avatar

"It’s ironic, because I’m always talking about how women have more choice, abundance, freedom, and autonomy than we’ve ever had, yet I’m still subconsciously clinging to the white-picket-fence fantasy." SAME! The hardest pattern to break

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taingava's avatar

love this thank you queen for writing this!

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kenz.'s avatar

all of this is so valid. everyone we meet and decide to let into our lives, even if only for a moment, matter. this explains it all so beautifully.

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jade's avatar

wow i have never read something that feels like im reading my internal monologue before i’ve thought it, beautiful piece

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The Girl Who Caught Up ♡'s avatar

The people who come before ‘the one’ absolutely still matter 🫶

They’re part of our story, part of what shaped us into the exact person we needed to become.

There’s nothing wrong with taking all the time you need to grow into who you’re meant to be. And what better way than to share real and raw stories as part of the journey!

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samara zuri's avatar

really great read <333 really loved this part especially: "I'm realizing my only two options aren't 'get married' or 'be a single spinster'" because i feel like most tend to put themselves into these boxes, sometimes because they've given up on love or because they're running against time. being able to just remind yourself that there's more to love — more to life — than this either all or nothing mentality is clarifying and freeing.

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Karin Flodstrom's avatar

Thank you for being real, honest, and willing to find your own best path.

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key's avatar

Thinking a lot about this during my Saturn return. Wonderful read!

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